The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work -

: This involves using "softened startups" to raise issues and learning to make "repair attempts" to de-escalate tension during arguments.

: Withdrawing from interaction to avoid conflict. Community Perspectives The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

: Gridlocked conflicts often stem from unfulfilled personal dreams. Couples must learn to honor each other's underlying aspirations to move past recurring stalls. : This involves using "softened startups" to raise

: Happy couples respond to "bids" for connection—tiny everyday requests for attention—rather than ignoring or rejecting them. Couples must learn to honor each other's underlying

Gottman warns against four negative communication patterns that can dismantle a marriage:

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